The reactions to last week’s post titled On The Issue of Testing have been quite interesting. Click here to read the post and comments. Online and offline conversations that followed threw up engaging discussions and what you’re about to read is one of such exchanges. My friend, Kay and I got talking about the subject of relationships and all the drama it throws up. We also got into the subject of faithfulness in relationships and with her consent, I share this with you today.
The conversation has been edited to suit publication but its main contents remain intact. Read. Learn. Contribute. Enjoy!
Ik: So, so what gist do you have for me tonight? I’m in listening mode
Kay: Really? Nothing
Ik: Hian! Don’t just bring that leg this night o
Kay: for real…eya…bring up something
Ik: Did you see what I posted on your (facebook) timeline? (the blog post)
Kay: yea…do people actually do that?
Kay: that’s interesting. To me, it doesn’t make any sense sha.
Ik: It doesn’t have to…people do all kinds of things
Kay: (But I feel) whatever you want to know, time will tell. Something will just come up somehow
Ik: time doesn’t tell everything o…unless you’re ready to wait for a loooong time
Kay: what if the person calculatively passes all the tests and you later find out it was all a game?
Ik: that’s the thing with testing…and all other such ‘strategies’ we develop as humans…they’re limited
Kay: very limited
Ik: yup…so how will you (Kay) be able to gauge a guy’s commitment/seriousness if you don’t test?
Kay: *scratching my head*
Kay: Seriously, I don’t know. But irrespective of all that, it’s about who I like. It doesn’t always have to be the person with the smartest moves
Ik: Okay…simple question. You said it’s about who you like abi? Would you go into/stay in a relationship with someone whose commitment you’re unsure of despite the fact that you like the person?
Ik: so how come you said “it’s about who I like”?
Kay: I’ll just be looking at you. I believe if I’m important to you, it’ll show
Ik: But you know you can be important to the person yet they’re not 100% committed
Kay: I doubt. Then the person is not serious
Ik: Have you ever heard the saying that it’s possible for a guy to love let’s say 2 ladies to the same degree?
Kay: heard that
Ik: do you think it’s T or F?
Kay: I don’t believe it sha…but you’re a guy. You’re in a better position to say
Ik: you never answer me straight…loll…do you think that statement is T or F?
Kay: As a guy, is it true or false?
Ik: Girl, it’s 100% true!
Ik: *smiling*…tonight, you’ll understand guys a bit better… I’ll share with you for free…loll
Kay: Loll…I’m all ears
Ik: too bad I have just like 10 mins here (online)
Kay: kk…we’ll keep the gist till tomorrow
Ik: just have it in mind sha…that the guy loves you doesn’t mean he does not/cannot love someone else at exactly the same time…#fact. But there’s something missing in the statement above…na tomorrow we go face that one
Kay: hehehehe…see suspense
Ik: but before then, just go dey think how you go take pay for the tutorial.
Kay: Loll..best things in life are free
Ik: nothing good/valuable comes easy. Proverb vs. Proverb
Ik: time to bounce…have a beautiful night
Kay: nice night
Look out for the concluding part of our discussion by 7pm tonight. But before then, what do you think? Guys, is Ik’s statement about multiple love interests true? Ladies, what’s your take on this? The comment box is right below- eager to read yours.