I guess this would probably compete for my ‘Long Post Title of the Year‘ award and its still only January. Well, I thought about a better (=shorter) name but no luck and I really wanted to get this to you so…enjoy.


If you’re like most of us, one of your biggest wishes as a child teenager was to grow up quickly so people would stop telling you what to do.

Our early years were a sea of orders on what/where/when/how/and with whom to do virtually everything.

Come inside. Now.

Have your bath before you go anywhere near that kitchen in search of food.

If you touch that meat! Oya, finish the food! (Not everyone would get this but it’s okay)

Sit up straight.

Be in this house before 5pm or just sleep there.

Change the channel!

Orders. Commands. Instructions. It all felt so restrictive, so confining that some of us went haywire as soon as we escaped close parental oversight. We made up our minds to make up for lost time (see what I did there?); trying and testing everything we’d been denied for so long. Maybe you know someone like this. Maybe you were this person! It felt good to finally be free from the nagging and people always trying to tell you how to live what was supposedly your life.

I understand that feeling. Being free to do what you want, when you want, exactly how you want and with whomever you please places great power at your feet. You literally are responsible for your life.

So…. how has it been so far? Great I hope.

As we mature and life happens to us, if we’re honest with ourselves, we’d admit that maybe getting some instruction, you know, that advice here and there isn’t such a bad idea afterall. Consequences of poor choices humble us and we realize that we don’t have it all figured out as we thought. We seek out knowledge in books, blogs and buddies. Google becomes a close friend.

In essence, we’re going full circle- the rebellious teenager, desperate to live wild and free transforms into a more thoughtful adult who’d rather talk things out with people whose opinions we respect because we’ve come to learn that being told what to do may not be as bad as it sounds.

We all admit that we don’t know it all, right? So insisting that no one should tell us how to lead our lives sounds both foolhardy and inconsistent with basic logic. Picture this.

You don’t know it.

Yet you don’t want to be be told how to do it.

*pause for effect*

Ermm…what exactly is wrong with you?

I don’t know who this is for, but my dear young person, it’s time to realize that its okay to be confused sometimes and seeking out good counsel doesn’t make you an idiot. Check out what I found recently in the wise sayings of an ancient king.

Give instruction to a wise man and he will be yet wiser.

Proverbs 9:9

Did you get that? He’s getting instructions yet he’s called a wise man.

So, what instructions have you ignored? I understand they may not always come how we like them or from whom we’d prefer (don’t you just love it when that fellow with a thousand personal issues offers penetrating insight into your problem?) but if it’s true, you’ll know deep inside. Take counsel even when it stings. Trust me, your ego will survive the bruise.

So I ask again, what instruction have you been ignoring lately? Care to take a second look today?

Thanks for stopping by. I’ll see you around.

Live by Design.

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